Talking about her cancer or keeping it a secret, her decision illustrates a dilemma

Patrick Sébastien, Louis Laforge have revealed that all three have overcome cancer.

Figaro live/Getty Patrick Sébastien, Louis Laforge have revealed that all three have overcome cancer.

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Patrick Sébastien, Louis Laforge have revealed that all three have overcome cancer.

PSYCHOLOGY – “ The word cancer doesn’t scare me. I just didn’t want to publicize it. » Within Live and be reborn every day, a book that will be published on September 29 by XO editions, patrick sebastian revealed to have recovered from a “kidney cancer with a big operation”, as trusted during an interview in Figaro. Illness of which he speaks now that he is no longer in danger.

In the same way, the presenter of the Health Magazine Michel Cymes recounts in his book that will be published on October 5, Nothing is impossible (Stock Editions), how he beat cancer. At the end of August, it was the journalist Louis Laforge who announced that he had survived the disease. ” A kidney, a ureteral channel, a piece of the small intestine and colon and, above all, one less cancer”. he wrote on Twitter.

Through their coming out of silence and the way they do it, these three personalities pose the delicate question of speak publicly about your illness or not, and when.

Preserve privacy

Whether you are famous or unknown, the announcement to your environment, close or less close, is a moment that is never easy, and for which there is no magic formula. “Suffering from a chronic illness like cancer is a matter of intimacy, of physical and moral suffering. Some want to preserve this intimacy, while others need or want to make it public”explain to HuffPost Doctor Ophélie Soulie, psychiatrist at the Curie Institute in Paris.

In fact, for this specialist in psycho-oncology, there is ” as many responses or ways of managing the disease as there are patients. Everyone does what they can, with the resources they have “.

Therefore, some prefer to hide this information before improving. ” It is interesting to mediate when he is cured. Self pity is the worst way to achieve rebirth “explained for example Patrick Sébastien to the Figaro.

Regardless of a person’s notoriety, speaking openly about the disease, sharing this difficulty with loved ones, can be very painful. Some, like Virgil Abloh, a creator who died in November of cardiac angiosarcoma at age 41, keep this information private. “Saying it makes the anguish caused by the disease real. From the moment you share this information, the idea of ​​being sick, of being able to die from it, is highlighted. What hurts is the awareness of this reality.She continues.

source of relief

At the same time, this sharing can also be a source of relief. Looking for support in the family environment, or in the professional field, for example. “ Why are relatives informed? », questioned Sarah Dauchythen a psychiatrist at the Gustave Roussy Institute, a care, research and teaching center for cancer patients, contacted by The HuffPost on the occasion of the premiere of the film just the end of the worldby Xavier Dolan. “Is it out of a need to share and a search for support, or a duty to inform, or even to prepare for loss? »She continues.

“By announcing the disease, the patient will be relieved of an enormous weight”, explains to Psychologies Marie-Frédérique Bacqué, professor of psychopathology at the University of Strasbourg. “He will free himself from the burden of secrecy”.

“It doesn’t just happen to others”

In the case of Michel Cymes, talking about his illness in his book is equivalent to giving ” keys to your readers. ” This book is different from all my other books. I am dealing with a topic that I have always tried to keep the details secret (…), write in your note of intention. By sharing it with you, dear readers, who have been faithful to me for so many years, I intend to give you keys that will allow you to unlock certain aspects of another experience, yours. »

Your goal, just as you do in your program, is above all prevention. “You will see that cancer does not only happen to others and that it is important to get tested because we are not always lucky enough, like me, to discover it by chance”he warns.

asked in It’s yours On the reflexes to have for a quick diagnosis, the journalist Louis Laforge had given some advice: “ I had a little discomfort, which turned into a little pain: they consulted me and that’s how the doctors saw that I had cancer. Don’t underestimate the little pains. »

The same story from Patrick Sébastien’s side: “ I threw myself into many projects. The important thing is to do and stay on your feet. And if it can help some people cope a little better… I know a lot of people who live better because of my books. it is a real satisfaction “He still believes in Le Figaro.

Virgil Abloh has not stopped creating and working on his collections during his months of fighting cancer. His last collection for Louis Vuitton was even presented two days after his death. “When it’s hard to talk about what you’re going through, it can be because you’re scared, but also to maintain some form of stability, some points of reference, in a time of chaos.explains Ophelie Soulie. At that point, you may not want to just show yourself through your illness filter, in order to maintain control of the image you send back. “.

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